I know you.
You are kind.
You are compassionate.
You are loving.
You are wise.
You are trying your best every day with the information you have.
You want the best for your family and others.
You are worthy.
You are amazing.
I know you, because this is who I am too. A good person, with a good heart and good intentions.
Yet, we seem to get lost along the way somewhere. Picking up and assigning ourselves identities that do not really serve who we truly are.
I am fat.
I am ugly.
I am broken.
I am not cool enough.
I am not smart enough.
I am not good enough.
I am not confident.
I am mean.
I am a bad person because I make bad decisions and I have bad habits.
These may be things that describe some aspect of your current state or how you feel and that’s ok. But, it’s not who you are. No, once you decide these phrases are part of your identity, then they become made-up stories about ourselves.
These are false identities that represent only one aspect of our decisions and habits. Even if you have made a lot of bad decisions, while it certainly can shape your current reality, it still doesn’t represent WHO you are.
You are not your weight, your appearance, your possessions (or lack thereof), or any of your mistakes.
When we believe these stories, we then get sucked into thinking we need to be better than who we really are. That we need to change who we are. That we need to drop our bad habits because it will make us better people.
Change is driven by pain and negativity that we are not good enough, which in my experience can be effective, but will usually not last.
I say NO.
We are good people. EVERY single person at their core is good and worthy.
Some of us are really good story tellers. And we’re really convincing. These are the people that are so convinced of their story that they act mean, act ugly or act like they’re bad people. But, even THEY don’t need to work on being better.
I’ve come to the conclusion that it’s really about letting go.
Instead of trying to change who you are out of pain and fear, recognize and honor who you are at your core. Let love be your motivator for letting go.
Let’s let go of the nasty stories that we’ve told ourselves. Let’s let go of the actions we take that serve these false identities.
Let’s stand up and become who we really are. Who’s with me?
Much love and gratitude.