Sometimes it’s hard to appreciate ourselves and all we’ve done during this time of year. We get so focused on things we didn’t do, how we fell short of goals and made mistakes. We think about the diets that didn’t stick, the good intentions to change habits that faded away and how we really need to be better next year.
Tis’ the season for resolutions. You’re going to set all these grand goals for next year and be absolutely perfect every step of the way because you know how shitty it feels to slip up and make mistakes.
While setting for and striving for goals is healthy, seeking perfection will probably only make you feel worse and actually make you more likely to quit new habits. (See previous articles here and here on perfectionism). But, making mistakes is kinda part of the whole being a human deal. So, how do you not end up in the same place this time next year?
It all begins in the mind. While there are many mindset shifts that can take place to allow you to feel like this year was AWESOME in all its messy glory, one important shift is to one of anti-perfectionism. It opens the door to so much self-love and learning.
In fact, I would have to say that this has been one of the best years of my life, and yet, I’ve probably made more mistakes this year than in most years past. Here’s a small sampling of my mistakes and failures:
- Tech problems, tech problems and more tech problems. I’ve made countless errors building the site real is cool. Some of which I didn’t discover until months later. Awesome!
- Being overly lax about my diet the last *quarter* of the year. Oopsie.
- Typos and bad grammar – pretty sure they’re all over my blog. Perhaps even in this sentence…should I be saying “poor grammar” instead? Who knows.
- Drinking local corn beer in Peru, made in a rural dirt hut. Getting violently ill at Machu Picchu because of said beer. I’m pretty sure I’m one of the only people with “threw up three times all over one of the seven wonders of the world” as a claim to fame.
- Submitting several articles to other bloggers for guest posts. Being denied for every single one of them.
- Setting several goals as part of a 90-day challenge. Only met about half of the goals, but finished the challenge.
- Being overly worried what people would think about my somewhat political article regarding the terrorist attacks in Paris. Next to no one read it. Ha!
- Taking over a year to hang some damn photos. I’ve had the pictures printed since early this year. I’ve had the frames even longer. Yep.
But, I don’t let these things bother me. At all. How you ask?
It’s simple. When I look at this list, I don’t see failures.
I see my efforts to learn something completely new – designing a website and starting a blog.
I see that I was trying new things.
I see that even though I didn’t meet all my goals, I did way more than if I hadn’t set any goals in the first place.
I see that I have been learning from my mistakes, using that as a force to grow, rather than a force to make me feel bad and quit trying.
I see that I maybe still have some things I can learn, which is cool. Good candidates for future goals.
And I let the rest go because, shit happens and I am trying my best.
In fact, I bet if you made the same list for your 2015, you might discover the same about yourself. You are learning and you are trying to do your best. And that’s all you can ask.
And yeah, I’ll keep my claim to fame as someone who threw up all over one of the seven wonders of the world. Because being perfect is boring. And being real is cool.
2015 was epic. Epically full of mistakes, amazing memories, learning and growth. If you want prioritize your mental health and improving your mindset in 2016, enter your email into the bar at the top of the site. I’ll even send you 10 strategies you can implement today to build confidence and self-love.
This article was inspired by Jill Coleman, someone I follow for mindset tips and advice when it comes to body image and eating. Check out her site: http://jillfit.com/